Experts offer advice after woman video chats her suicide at Fargo motel by calling daughter

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FARGO, N.D. (Valley News Live) - When a person dies by suicide, it's not just one life that's impacted but a whole community.

Court documents recently filed in Cass County District Court detailed a dramatic suicide in Fargo.

A woman staying at a motel near West Acres Mall called her daughter in May using Facebook's video chat.

She was holding a gun to her head, and according to court documents, began to then cry telling her daughter she “couldn't do it anymore.”

Next thing, the woman pulled the trigger and the phone fell to the ground.

The woman had been living at the motel with her boyfriend and court documents stated there were allegations of domestic violence between the couple.

“It's something that starts at a very very young age, it's modeled and learned,” Myla Korbel with the Rape and Abuse Crisis Center in Fargo said.

The non-profit saw nearly 3,000 people last year with 54 percent of its cases for domestic violence and 34 percent for sexual assault.

Korbel described domestic violence as a public health issue.

“It's a cycle that goes on in these kinds of relationships, and so when you start to notice these patterns…a person doesn't seem to be your same friend, your same sister, as far as connection to the family and friendship that's a big indicator,’ Korbel said.

Korbel said try not to pass judgment if someone's in a relationship where there's violence because it can alienate the person.

FirstLink in Fargo offers resources to those who may have suicidal thoughts.

“Quit keeping things secret,” FIrstLink Executive Director Cindy Miller said. “[Make] sure that others know that we are struggling, we're having a tough time. Life is difficult sometimes, we all have struggles in our lives.”

FirstLink has been around for 50 years and it has a 24 hour hotline, which people can access be calling 211.

“The first 24 hours of leaving a health care facility when you've been having thoughts of suicide are the most dangerous, so we want to call them within 24 hours of getting that referral,” Jennifer Illich, operations director at FirstLink, said.

Most people have suicidal thoughts but they don't act on them, according to FirstLink. Suicide carries repercussions that can tear a family apart.

The resources offered at the Rape and Abuse Crisis Center and FirstLink are free and you can remain confidential.

Those who are experiencing suicidal thoughts can also call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255.