Amy Dee shares with us steps we can take to better ourselves and achieve what we've put our mind to.
The Willpower Instinct by Kelly McGonigal, Ph.d
Tip #1 There are three parts to willpower I will, I won't, and I want. Spend time creating a strong "I want" that is connected to your core values. Example " I want to lose weight to lower my cholesterol and be healthier so I can enjoy my grandchildren someday"
When your "I will" wants to hit the snooze button instead of exercise and your "I won't" button is staring down a cigarette, your powerful "I want" will help you to remember that you really want to live to someday dance at your child's wedding.
Tip#2 Self Awareness
As human beings we have this incredible gift of self awareness. This means that at any given point we can choose a different behavior.
Recognize the first signs of a craving. Often people give into cravings because they think the craving will build in intensity until it becomes overwhelming. Not true. Instead, cravings behave like waves in the ocean...they build, crest, then disappear. If you can surf the urge you have a better chance of beating the craving altogether.
Do not try to avoid thinking about the craving. Instead, recognize the craving without argument or avoidance. But also understand that the craving is simply a thought and you do not have to act on everything thought (nor should you). Thoughts come and go like clouds in the sky. Just allow the thought to pass ( and it will).
Tip#3 Self control is like a muscle, it gets tired from use but regular exercise makes it stronger.
Consider adding a willpower workout to strengthen your willpower muscle. Pick out one thing you will do ( I will power) or one thing you won't do (I won't power) this week. Use your biggest " I want" power, to give you strength when you find yourself tempted to give in.
Tip#4 Don't turn your willpower challenges into measures of moral worth. "Being good" often gives us permission to "be bad". Watch how you talk to yourself about your willpower failures and successes. Remember that your positive moments of not giving into temptation or procrastination have nothing to do with morality and everything to do with achieving your long term goal.
Tip #5 You are stronger than you think you are. If you have decided on a long term goal, it is probably something worthwhile and something you really want. In moments you are ready to "give up" or "give in" remember that if you quit now, you will probably decide to start all over again at a later date.
So don't quit. You are stronger than you think you are. Push yourself to drive through this cloudy moment and you will come out of storm even STRONGER and READY for SUCCESS!
YOU CAN DO THIS!
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