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Why Women Stay In Domestic Violence Relationships

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  We have more on an exclusive story we've been bringing you all week long. We're taking a closer look at domestic violence and the Stacey Kitchens story.

  Stacey's husband, Greg is in the Pembina County jail, facing 26 counts of raping and torturing her at their Cavalier, North Dakota rental home. Prosecutors have video tape of those alleged attacks. 

Stacey Kitchens, Sex Abuse Victim: "I was in love with him."

  Like any newlywed, Stacey Kitchens says she was really in love with her husband Greg, when they married in Alabama 4 years ago. She even had his name tattooed on her neck.

Stacey Kitchens: "For sex… tie me up, make me do things to him and I would say please not. You don't have to tie me up, I'll do whatever you want. I'm pretty sure they seen that on video."

  However, Stacey says Greg became a control freak, who allegedly ended up caging her in the basement of their Cavalier home, raping and torturing her.

  So, why didn't she leave before things got so terrible? Stacey says the simple answer is fear.

Stacey Kitchens: "The last night that I got loose he beat me all night long. He told me I was going to die that night… held a knife to my throat."

  According to a study by the U.S. Department of Justice, the most dangerous time for a woman who is being battered is when she leaves. Women stand a 75-increase in being killed or seriously injured when leaving a violent partner.

Lynn Tally, Domestic Violence Expert: "You know, probably fear is the biggest reason why women stay. They're just terrified to leave, because they know just leaving doesn't mean that violence is going to stop."

  And for Stacey and thousands of other victims of domestic violence, there are others reasons they stay.

Lynn Tally: "She gets hit and leaves. There are promises made. I'll never do that again. I promise, if there's alcohol involved, I'll go to AA. I'll start going to church with you. There are all kinds of promises made that make her believe that things might get better and so she stays."

  It's a vicious cycle that isn't broken until the victim, family or friends step forward and seek help.

   If you or someone you know is in a domestic violence situation, here are links to organizations that can help in North Dakota and Minnesota.

North Dakota Click Here

Minnesota Click Here






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